What are Bull videos? Well a bull is generally referred to that by a cuckold - a man who is submissive and wishes his wife to experience better sex withanother man. That man is known as a bull (or a stud in some countries). Bull videos have become very popular - watching bulls taking another mans wife, while the helpless cuckold looks on and gets turned on by this scene.
The designate may sound like being an alliteration; but it best exemplifies the lifestyle of cuckold wives (And view you, this is more of a trend than being an aberration). Cuckolds do have a sexual annotation and there is no doubting this verity, but let’s be absolve on one thing – Sex is truly not the only thing on the minds of cuckold wives, who go around hunting for a bull!
Think about this – Why would a married lady go looking for someone that is a bull? I am trusty she is robust indeed, but the matter that requests to be asked is – Is the spouse open enough to accommodate the LUSTY requests of the consort? If he answers in harmful, the spouse definitely desires a focus to utter out, and that’s why the notion of cuckolding comes to play!
Mind you – Conventional matrimony purists will go around axiom that a husband and husband should sit on either sides of the index, and utter it out! Gone are the existence – So seems the retort from the so-called, accused cuckold wives. The more modern bit of rumor advocated vociferously by cuckold wives is, “Sex cannot be solved on the postpone. It needs BALLS in the bed.”
That is the instant. When a man and a woman pierce the marital gridlock, they marry in the assumption that either bash would keep them content in all aspects of their marital life. And yes, that also includes sexual life. Husbands, in their aim to earn money and charge their wives happy with pertinent pleasures, crash to grasp one thing – Nothing pleases a consort more than how good you are in the Bed! And the exchange is – If you are a super executor in the bed, all other things can still be given an escape. Sounds unadorned right – Unpack your bags early and skull home for a sticky session with your companion! Even if that means, you got to be burden it twice a week, men would never say No to sex! Wrong – It has been proven that after marriage, the sexual notice in their wives reduces exponentially. And that spins your wife to make you a cuckold and to find a bull for herself!
The reasons for wives becoming cuckolds are decently emotional though they still relate to sex. Nevertheless, who said, sex is material only.
The idea Keep your wife satisfied, if you craving to visit away from cooking raw meat while your wife is away snatching other MEAT from a bull.
Sex addiction is an illness that is experienced worldwide by men and women from different backgrounds and cultures. When a person is a sex addict, they suffer from a disease which is incurable, progressive and capable of destroying the lives of not only the sufferer but of their families as well.
Sex addiction can be managed with a recovery programme and therapy but whilst in the grips of this addiction, sufferers cannot escape their obsessive and compulsive behaviour. Often sex addiction is experienced with other addictive behaviours such as drug use and eating disorders. They are all behaviours of the same disease of addiction.
Similar to other addictions such as drug addiction and alcohol addiction, sex addiction is based on obsessive and compulsive needs. The behaviour of a sex addict can include repeated empty affairs, compulsive masturbation, frequent use of prostitutes and other sex services and in extreme cases can even progress to exhibitionism, voyeurism, child molestation and rape.
Sex addicts however are not bad people. Their condition is not a moral failing: It is a spiritual unrest.
Why is Sex Addiction So Destructive?
In some Twelve Step fellowship support groups, ‘bottom line behaviour’ is identified. Bottom line behaviour is a term used to define the specific sex addict’s behaviours which they act out on.
Most sex addicts experience ‘intrigue’ which is the mental preoccupation with sexual acts. Objectifying people, constant obsession with sexual acts, flirting and generally spending much time with the preoccupation of sex is the mental state of a sex addict. These obsessions are then followed by the compulsive acting out on sexual behaviours.
Sex addiction is progressive. It may begin with compulsive masturbation and an affinity for pornography which then develops into a serious problem involving the use of prostitutes, money troubles, families being broken up and unemployment, further to which suicide can be a consequence.
When sex addiction has progressed to a severe level, the sex addict is unable to resist the impulse to act out on their sexual behaviours. They become more involved with the behaviours for longer periods of time, with greater intensity and violence to have the desired effect, resulting in their responsibilities being neglected. Without being able to fulfil their obsession and act out on the behaviour, they become irritable, restless and angry. Despite the desire to abstain and stop the sexual compulsivity because their lives are beginning to crumble, they are unable to do so. They are powerless over their sexual addiction and their lives begin to become completely unmanageable.
Treatment
Sex addiction is treatable, but incurable. Yet with therapy, abstinence from the disordered sexual behaviours and maintaining a programme of recovery on a daily basis, a sex addict can regain a normal life again. Inpatient treatment in a counselling centre can be extremely beneficial to a sex addict seeking help for their problem. Many sex addicts will be in a state of denial about their problem but once they have admitted that they have a problem, they can begin the healing recovery process.
Inpatient treatment will usually provide group therapy and individual therapy which have been found to be the most successful methods of dealing with sex addiction. Treatment facilities are a safe place for sex addicts to recover where they can process their condition with experienced and understanding people. They need never be alone in their struggle again.
Whilst in a rehabilitation centre, a sex addict will need to begin working a daily programme of recovery, such as the Twelve Steps. There are fellowships which are devoted to helping sex addicts receive support and help in their behaviour. For a sex addict to be abstinent from the behaviour does not mean that they must stay celibate for the rest of their life – it is a normal human behaviour to engage in sexual acts, just not ones which begin to destroy their lives and keep them in a terrible cycle of shame and self loathing. A sex addict who turns to celibacy as a way of dealing with the problem is not addressing the root cause – similar to a ‘dry drunk’.
With proper treatment and therapy, coupled with a programme of recovery, a sex addict can begin to lead a happy and normal life again. A recovery programme will keep a sex addict aware of their behaviours and dangerous situations which may lead to relapse and will teach them tools to cope with daily life.
You see a lot of articles about what men can do during sex to make it better for the woman, but there’s a lot less information – and opinion – on the mistakes women make. So, to set the record straight, here’s our list of ten things for women to avoid.
1 Expecting him to think like a woman
We’ve all seen loads of books with titles like “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” which highlight an unfortunate difference between the sexes. Men and women don’t think the same way – and while we’re not going to get into why this happens, it’s important to remember that fact when you’re in a relationship. In general, men are not as romantic as women, they don’t see romance as a necessary prelude to sex, and they can divorce sex from their feelings in a way that perhaps most women can’t. So there will be plenty of times when a man wants sex even if he isn’t feeling romantic and connected to his partner.
For him, the physical pleasure of sex is a reward in itself. He doesn’t need to be seduced into feeling desire (though he may appreciate it if you do seduce him!), at least most of the time, for his sex drive is a pretty constant part of his maleness. I think that’s what women don’t understand.
They know how elusive and emotional their own sex drive is, but they don’t appreciate how different it is for a man. Think of it this way: men can enjoy sex with their partner whether they are feeling loving or not; in fact they often find their feelings of love for their partner when they have sex with her. By contrast, women often say they need to feel loving before they want sex – or at least before they are prepared to give themselves heart and soul to a man.
2 Not showing your sexual energy
Women who were brought up to be demure “good girls” (i.e. non-sexual) may find it difficult to express the essence of their feminine energy during sex. And a lot of women also have problems expressing their anger, an emotion which can add real spice to the sexual union between men and women. This lack of sexual energy might appear as a reluctance to initiate sex, a reluctance to be the active partner, a reluctance to make noises or thrust, or simply an overall tendency to wait for the man to lead and direct what happens during sex.
But believe me, ladies, your man will really like it when you express your passion – whether that means you getting on top for woman on top sex, moving in a way that will give you the greatest pleasure, kissing him passionately, or being assertive about what you want in bed.
3 Being too gentle when you touch his penis
Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to their penises. If you ever have the pleasure of watching him masturbate, you’ll see how much pressure he uses on his penis – especially as he nears orgasm. If you’re doing it for him, ask him to tell you what you’re doing right and what he’d like done differently. He’ll really appreciate your efforts to give him more pleasure.
4 Not experimenting with sex
The saying has it that men think about sex ten times an hour – or is it a hundred? Yes, of course that’s an exaggeration, but it isn’t much of one. While some women have a high sexual desire, it’s true to say that women in general are much less sexy than men when they’re not in the bedroom. Men fantasize all the time – about the things they see, what they’d like to do, how they’d like to do it, and so on. With such an active sexual imagination, it’s not hard to understand why a bit of variation in the bedroom routine can keep a man sexually happy.
It doesn’t have to be way out stuff like bondage, either. For example, try changing sex positions once in a while: take the initiative and get on top of him or let him enjoy rear entry for a change. Talk dirty to him if you’ve never tried that before; explore and play with new parts of his body, such as his anus and perineum, during foreplay – or even during the main event. Seduce him into a “quickie” by leaving a trail of clothes across the floor into the bedroom. Greet him at the door in sexy clothing. Phone him at work and tell him what you’d like to do to him later that day…..well, you get the idea – use your imagination!
5 Expecting him to read your mind
Yes, we know it’s difficult to express your sexual desires directly. But men don’t think like women. They don’t read clues, they don’t get hints. So stop communicating indirectly, and tell him what you want. And give him feedback when you get it! That way, he’ll know exactly what he’s supposed to be doing, how you feel about it, and whether to do it again. For example, if you like what he’s doing during sex, let him know with your moans of pleasure.
6 Criticizing him
I think one of the reasons women can be so critical of their man is that they’ve never learned the art of direct communication. Than means stating clearly and directly what you want, how you want it, and whether you got it – and how you feel about it afterwards. Men appreciate that style of talk – they know where they stand and it removes the uncertainty for them.
Criticism is an indirect way of saying that your needs are not being met – but if you read number 5 above, then maybe you’ve begun to understand that your man won’t know what you want unless you tell him. If you’re judging his love for you on the basis of his ability to anticipate and meet your needs without you saying what they are, well, I’m afraid you aren’t likely to be very satisfied. And it won’t be his fault.
7 Letting him take responsibility for your orgasm
A lot of us think that a man somehow has a responsibility to “give” a woman an orgasm during sex. After all, that’s how a lot of us were brought up – that a man somehow has to look after “his” woman. And that idea extends to making sure she has an orgasm during sex…..but the truth is that women are responsible for their own orgasms. So while it might be nice for your man to help you get there, if you don’t make it to orgasm through his efforts, you can always take matters into your own hands.
8 Controlling him by withdrawing sex
One of the most unhealthy things you can do in a relationship is to use sex as a weapon. This is basically a statement that you feel powerless, that you think withholding sex is the only way you can get what you want. Rather than trying to exert some influence over your man by denying him the pleasure of your body, try communicating directly what you want and don’t want. (That might even extend to simply saying you don’t feel emotionally close enough to your partner to want sex.)
9 Thinking he’ll feel the same way about your body that you do
It just isn’t so. Men don’t attach the judgments to women’s bodies that women do. So, for example, even if he thinks your butt really is a bit on the large side, it won’t matter to him the way it matters to you. In fact, he probably quite likes it. And he certainly won’t be put off making love, or want the lights off, because of it. While you waste time and emotional energy wondering if you’re completely undesirable because of some aspect of your body, he’ll never give it a second thought. It’s women who judge their bodies, I think for the sake of comparison with other women, not men.
10 Not making up with sex after an argument
Well, yes, I know that a lot of couples do make up with sex when they’ve had an argument, but in fact many more don’t. As I said above, most women think that they need to be feeling loving and emotionally close before they want sex. Yet I’ve met a lot of couples in my work as a sexual therapist who have found that taking the risk and jumping into bed can work really well as a way of getting close again.
Even if you don’t feel sexy or loving when you start making love, after a while the simple act of being physically connected in bed can really change the way you feel about each other. The other way of settling an argument (that’s talking, seeking understanding, and thrashing out how you feel) is fine: but once in a while try a more direct method of getting your feelings back on track – just go to bed together!
Rod Phillips
We all want to make sex as good as it can be for our partners. But there’s more to good sex than choosing the best sex position – you have to know which sex positions and techniques to avoid! So here is a list of things for men to avoid during sex, along with some advice about the best sex positions – the ones that will make sex great for both of you!
First Sex Position Mistake: Pushing your partner to do anything she isn’t comfortable with. So, if you’ve been thinking of trying the outrageous sex positions adopted by some porn stars, forget it! Start from a more realistic place. Being comfortable for a woman involves two things: first of all, she has to be physically comfortable. That might mean she isn’t going to feel too happy if you ask her to put her ankles behind her ears while you have sex. It might also mean that you have to avoid any position that gives you the deepest penetration, since your penis might bang her cervix and give her some serious discomfort. Second, she has to emotionally comfortable.So if you treat her like one of those porn stars, she isn’t going to be too happy either, and you’re not likely to be invited back to bed. This includes: wanting to ejaculate over her without her whole-hearted agreement, using dirty talk that is disrespectful to her, wanting to slap her butt if she isn’t into it, and generally treating her like a sex
object rather than a person. Second Sex Position Mistake: Being too much of a gentleman. There’s an old saying: “A gentleman takes his weight on his arms.” If you think this is the best way to behave during sex in the man on top position, did you ever try asking your partner what she wants? A lot of women like to feel the weight of their man on top of them during sex – they say things like: it makes them feel safe, secure, loved, or that they just like to feel the energy and power of their man in this position. Sure, if you’re a lot heavier than she is, you might squash her, so exercise some judgement, but generally, in the man on top position, let her feel your weight!
Third Sex Position Mistake: Don’t just lie there all the time when she’s having fun. If she’s on top, riding you, remember that you can still move during sex in this position, even if it’s only a little bit. You can thrust your hips to match her movements, raise your knees to alter the angle at which your penis enters her vagina, and caress her breasts and clitoris if she’s facing you while you have sex. Remember – you don’t like it if she lies motionless during man on top sex, so in this position, return the favour and move about yourself!
Fourth Sex Position Mistake: Being too aggressive during sex. Sure, some women like rough sex, either all the time or once in a while, but for a woman, sex tends to be something special and she’d like you to treat it that way too! That means not pumping away aggressively without her encouragement, not being selfish (i.e. having an orgasm yourself but not bothering to make sure she has one too), and not moving her around roughly during sex. If you want to show how much of a man you are by being a bit dominant, do it with firmness and kindness, rather than flinging her around the bed like a rag doll. Needless to say, this advice applies whatever sex position you are using!
Fifth Sex Position Mistake: Sticking to the same old sex positions every time you make love. Sure, you don’t have to try all the adventurous and challenging positions you can find on the internet, but a bit of variation really adds spice to your sex life. Even if you’re extremely fond of the man on top position, for example, sex in the rear entry or side by side positions will let you see things very differently, may well get you much more aroused, and will certainly give you both some different sensations!
Rod Phillips
1 Learn how he likes his penis to be handled
His penis is not like your clitoris – it’s not highly sensitive and delicate. So he’ll want you to go straight for his penis during sex, and once you’re there he’ll want you to apply a firm pressure (though you can make sex last longer by teasing him and working gradually down his body towards his penis). Learn how he masturbates, if necessary by watching him, and you’ll soon see the kind of stroke and pressure he appreciates most.
2 Play with his balls
Because men are so penis-centred, they and their partners tend to forget how sensitive and erotic his scrotum and testicles can be. Play with his balls as you give him fellatio, for example, and he’ll be in heaven. You could even try taking one at a time into your mouth and gently rolling it around.
3 Play with his perineum
If you haven’t discovered the erotic potential of his perineum yet – that’s the area between his scrotum and anus – then another treat’s in store. You can press, lick, stroke and tease this area, right up to his anus, and increase his sexual excitement enormously.
4 When he comes, stimulate his anus
A finger on his anus when he comes can make a man’s orgasm feel much more intense. If he’s near his orgasm, it can make him come there and then. And if you put a (well-lubed) finger inside him and press his prostate gland when he comes, he’s likely to have a massive orgasm!
5 Talk dirty as you make love
A lot of women are too inhibited to talk dirty during sex, but I’d say most men like it – a lot. If you tell him to “fuck my hot wet cunt” when you’re both enjoying sex, he’s most likely to come there and then!
6 Do something different
If you always employ the same old routine during sex, do something different. For example, try a different sex position. If you usually have sex with him on top, roll over so you’re doing it on your sides, facing each other. If you haven’t tried woman on top, get up there and ride him. If he likes rear entry (and which man doesn’t?) then let him enter you from behind while you lie in the spoons position on the bed – that’s more intimate than rear entry but probably just as exciting for him. Or take the initiative, and seduce him in the kitchen, making love on the table or the floor! These positions are especially fun to try when you’re feeling horny.
7 Try watching porn together
Men like porn, and whether you appreciate it or not, it’s here to stay, and he’s most likely using it to get off. But the good news is that there is some nice erotic stuff around that isn’t abusive to women. One name to watch out for is Femme Productions. Sharing a sexy DVD before you go to bed can really add a spark of passion and excitement to your sex.
8 Wake him up in the night for sex
A woman can always seduce a man subtly if she puts her mind to it. So see what happens if you press your buttocks up against him in the night, or if you press your hot vulva against his cock as he slumbers. Move your hips around a little as you do this, and he’ll soon be raring to go. This might be best reserved for the nights you don’t have an early start next day.
9 Use lube if you need to – or even if you don’t
Even if you have a nicely moist vagina, a little extra lube is often a revelation. Just a squirt of Astroglide or Probe can change the feel of sex completely, making it seem like a new experience.
10 Try lube inside the condom
Just a little lube inside the condom can make sex much more pleasurable, but don’t use too much or it might just slip off when you least expect it!
11 Be assertive during sex
Take the lead during sex, act like a sex goddess, and do all the work for a change. Men like their partners to be assertive and sexually dominant from time to time, because having the responsibility for always initiating sex is tiring and involves at least some rejection. It’s a refreshing change when a woman acts as the dominant partner.
Yes, girls, men want you to sometimes take the lead and be sexually assertive. If you aren’t sure how to do this, start by climbing on top of him – the woman on top position can be very empowering for you, and he’s sure to love it. You can control the depth and speed of thrusting, especially if you tell him to lie still and enjoy it while you ride him!
12 Let him masturbate between your breasts
Ladies, you just don’t appreciate how much men like breasts. Even if you’re used to him making a bee-line for them when you make love, you still don’t know….just take it from me, it’s like being in heaven when you fold them around his penis and let him thrust between them.
13 Alternate shallow and deep thrusts during vaginal intercourse
Men often like deep thrusting because it feels more powerful and sexy – and it makes them come quicker. But a good plan is to switch between deep thrusts and shallow ones as you make love, because shallow thrusts delay his orgasm, stimulate his glans and frenulum (the most sensitive bits of his penis), and they also hit your G-spot.
14 Press back against him as he thrusts
You don’t have to be passive during sex. Even in the man on top position you can thrust back against him, buck your pelvis, and add all your sexual energy to his. If you’re having sex in the rear entry position, get him to stand still while you move back and forth along his penis.
15 Tell him you how much you want him to fuck you
Assuming your man is just like the rest of us, he’ll want to be told how much you admire, like and desire him. Whereas women want to be cherished by their partners, the corresponding desire in men is to be respected. Telling him how skillful and desirable he is as a lover will press all the right buttons.
16 Masturbate in front of him…
If you feel inhibited about masturbating in front of your partner – don’t. Seeing you bring yourself off is just about as exciting as it gets for him.
17 …then make love to him
If you masturbate in front of him, he’ll get so turned on, he’ll be desperate to fuck you, and he won’t last long when he does!
18 Teach him how you like him to masturbate you
Men aren’t the most subtle creatures in the world when it comes to masturbation, so you may need to coach him in the best ways for you to reach orgasm. Show him what you like, how you like to be touched, and how this changes as you get more aroused.
19 Have your orgasm before he enters you
This is especially good for men who come quite quickly. If he goes down on you (or masturbates you) until you have an orgasm, the pressure on him not to come quickly during sex is much reduced. What’s more, making love to you after you’ve had an orgasm means your vagina will still be hot, wet and swollen, and this will be a real turn-on for him, not to mention the fact that it will feel absolutely wonderful for him when he penetrates you.
20 Undress in front of him
Yes, we know you’re self-conscious about your body. But here’s the good news – he likes it. He knows it intimately, he makes love to it, and he sees it as a thing of beauty; he doesn’t look for the flaws in it, like you might be tempted to do. So he’ll love watching you undress, and if you add a little innocent seduction into the process, he’ll get turned on and show you how much he appreciates your body when you do make love.
21 Buy some sexy underwear and wear it like it was made for you
You don’t have to feel like a tart if you buy some sexy lingerie and act like a tease. High quality, pretty underwear is a turn on for both men and women.
22 Be wanton
It’s a common male fantasy to be bedded by a wanton woman who’ll act dirty and uninhibited. You can help him fulfill that fantasy by unleashing the sex goddess in yourself for a night. For example, try whispering to him when you’re having a night out that you aren’t wearing any underwear and that you’re oozing with desire for him. See the look on his face and you’ll know what I mean – but be prepared to have sex the moment you get through your door when you arrive home!
23 Ask him about his sexual fantasies – and perhaps act them out
But don’t laugh when he tells you what they are. He may not have shared his innermost fantasies with you for all kinds of reasons; they may even be some of his deepest secrets. Even if you don’t want to act them out, respect the fact that he shared them with you. If you do act them out, have fun, and don’t take it too seriously.
24 Don’t alienate him from the bedroom
Pretty frills and bright patterns and colors are all very well, but it’s his bedroom too, and he may appreciate being consulted about how much lace you want around the place. In short, don’t make your bedroom too feminine for his comfort.
25 Let his penis calm down after sex
Some men have such a sensitive glans after sex that they can’t bear to have it touched for quite a while. So be careful of his penis after you have made love.
26 Explore his body
Despite being so penis centered, men do like being licked, touched and stroked all over their bodies. For example, a man’s nipples are likely to be just as sensitive as yours – so encourage him to let you play with them. Some other places to stroke, tickle and lick him: his legs, buttocks and armpits; his neck and scalp; his toes; his back…..so that’s just about all over his body, really!
27 Know how to kiss
Yes, it’s nice to enjoy gentle kissing, but he’ll certainly appreciate a bit of full-on mouth work from you from time to time. It hints at penetration and breaks down barriers to intimacy and familiarity.
28 Discover his favorite sexual positions
All the sex positions have something in their favor, but like most men, he’ll have his favorite. It might be man on top for the deep penetration and feeling of dominance; it might be rear entry for the sheer pleasure of fucking you from behind; it might be woman on top for the pleasure of lying back and enjoying the ride. Most likely, it’s all of them! But there will be ways in which you can make it even better for him, perhaps by squeezing his penis while he’s inside you, or wrapping your legs around him when he’s on top. Take the time to find out what turns him on, and he’ll show his gratitude both in and out of the bedroom!
29 Don’t fake orgasm
You’re not a charity, and it’s disrespectful to both of you to pretend you’re sexually satisfied when you’re not. If you don’t make it to orgasm during intercourse, have your orgasm from him giving you oral sex before you have intercourse. Remember, very few woman actually reach orgasm through intercourse, and most they like it for other reasons such as feeling loved or giving their partner pleasure.
30 Learn to give great head
Nothing you can do for a man shows you love him like oral sex. Women think men like it because it feels good – and that’s certainly true. But men also like it because it’s the ultimate symbol of acceptance by their partner – that she will take his most precious part and accept it into her mouth. Good oral sex is at least as good as vaginal intercourse for me, and many other men as well, I’m sure. And when you know how to do it well, you’ll have a lover keen to pleasure you in return
31 Develop a tight vagina
Apart from the fact that a healthy set of PC muscles is good for you, it does make a difference to men during sex whether their partner has a tight vagina or not. Some men say that making love to a woman who’s had a child is much less satisfying – well, if the woman has toned up her muscles, with Kegel exercises, that need not be the case.
So there we are! Some simple tips to make sex great for men. Like it or not, sex is incredibly important to most men, and most relationships go a lot better when the partners are enjoying fulfilling sex. If you as a woman get satisfaction from seeing your man happy in bed, then the tips above go a long way towards making that happen.
Why people are interested in tantric sex
Judging from my long time experience as a tantric sex coach, it seems to me that most people at some point in their lives have a sexual experience that could be called transcendental or mystical, or simply “out of this world” wonderful. This special sexual experience could have taken place with a partner or on their own. It doesn’t matter how it came about, what matters is that many, many people naturally have this kind of amazing sexual encounter, often quite inadvertently. That’s because our bodies, psyches and spirits are wired to have this kind of experience. It’s in our original blue print to be ecstatic. When we are able to totally relax, let go, trust and open up, magical, divine love-making happens all by itself.
So, if it’s so natural, why don’t more people enjoy mind-blowing sex as a regular, everyday thing? That’s because our upbringing has trained us out of our intuitive knowing. Still, having once, or sporadically, had this experience, it is only understandable that people spend their lives trying to recapture that special moment, often failing to do so. Some manage it occasionally, but few have it consistently. Others go down the wrong track all together into all kinds of sexual distractions, even sex addiction. But what people really seek deep down is sex that helps them merge with the divine, sex that tunes them into the love that is the very fabric of who we are, sex that helps them melt and become one with God, Goddess, The Source, “That which is eternal”.
The reason “Tantra” has become so popular lately is because tantric sex describes quite well this sacred sex that people are missing. And so people try out whatever suggestions they find under the term Tantra. But what a lot of people don’t understand is that no amount of techniques or special breathing rhythms or chants or body positions, or incense or gadgets will get you to this longed for state of blissful pleasure and merging.
What you need to get there is much simpler then that. To have fantastic life-altering sex you need emotional and physical openness, that’s it.
It’s simple but that doesn’t mean it’s necessarily easy.
That’s why, paradoxically, these mystical sexual experiences are often experienced by couples who are fairly new to each other. Check your own experience and see if I’m right.
This is so because couples who are new to each other are typically a lot less weighed down with cautiousness. There is an innocence, a freshness, a hopefulness and a lack of negative expectation. There is an absence of the protection that usually builds between a couple as their intimate relating touches old emotional wounds and as lack of sexual knowledge and communication skills creates repeated disappointments.
Does that mean that you should go from honeymoon to honeymoon, from partner to partner in search of this magical sex. Oh no! The truly best sex, the lasting kind, the really amazing deeply transformational sex is always found in committed relationships where the partners keep growing in closeness together.
So what can a couple do to consistently have the best sex they’ve ever had? And not just on their honeymoon or once in a great while?
They can commit to emotional, physical and energetic opening. But how?
In my home audio workshop and e-book “Sex for the Soul” I go into great detail as to what a couple can do, but here I’ll just give you a short list of tips:
1. Have eye contact when you make love much of the time. See and allow yourself to be seen, be emotionally naked.
2. Talk about your sex life. Be willing to increase your communication about specific sexual physical details by 100%; what works for you, what doesn’t, and what you wish your partner and you would try. Keep blame out of it. Rather then focusing on what doesn’t work let each other know what would work. Make yourself vulnerable and be honest.
3. Relax your body when you make love. Slow things down enough so that you can feel your genitals very sensitively. Start slow, and slow down in between more heated moments. Your body will teach you how to have sacred sex if you slow down enough to listen to it.
4. Be willing to experiment with new ways of playing in the bedroom, physically and emotionally.
5. Don’t settle for sexual gratification, which means, don’t just go for orgasm at all cost, neither his nor hers. Seek to make love, to create a space of lovingness, each time you connect sexually.
6. Make love often; bring your bodies together regularly. Let your lovemaking become a meditation of surrender, connection, vulnerability and deep relaxation. See it as a spiritual practice. Let your relationship be a journey of learning and growing in love together.
And here an excerpt from my upcoming audio program “Sex for the Soul”
…….One of the messages of this program is: Don’t just have sex, make love! Most people, when they hear the words “making love” immediately assume it means having a sexual exchange, am I right? Have you ever really considered why that is? It is because, since time immemorial, sex is one of the best ways that humans have to create more love: in their relationship, in their lives, and on the planet. Unfortunately, the way things are nowadays, having sex doesn’t mean making love. Consciously engaging in the act of creating more love through the sexual act is not what most people think about when they are having sex. The way sex is promoted these days in popular culture presents sex as a means for physical pleasure, excitement, fun, or even social status. Although there is no problem with any of these, the media is inadvertently promoting loveless sex. “Tips for better sex”, “How to have more sizzling orgasms”, “Make sex last longer”, “5 new techniques to Dazzle Your Partner in Bed”– these are the headlines we see every day on magazine covers. The word “love” does not appear in any of these headlines and that’s why it’s easy to forget to look for love.
Another message of this program is equally important: Don’t just live together, make love! So many long- term couples have given up and resigned themselves to a life of companionship, and maybe occasional sex, but there are many easy and some not so easy things a couple can do to bring the spark back to their partnership.
And to come back to the value of tantric techniques, special breathing rhythms, mantras, chants, sexual positions, energy exercises, incense, sacred symbols, etc. Once you have emotional openness all the above can be a lot of fun and add to your experience in lovely ways. Often the biggest value is not the technique itself but the fact that in endeavoring to bring these things into their life, couples start talking about their sex-life and begin to explore. But just remember, you don’t really need any techniques to have the best sex you ever had. You just need to trust yourself and your body ever more deeply.
If you want to start today, try one of my tips for Sacred Sex above.My audio workshop will give you many more explicit and detailed instructions to work with, but for now go to my list of tips and start exploring the vast depths of sexual mystery and magic that is yours by birthright.
Resources:
http://www.sacredloving.net/
As we age, a lot of people see sex as an extra or something that they just do not have time for. The fact of the matter is that we should all make sex a priority in our relationships. The reason for this is not just because it allows for us to be close to our mate, but because there are many get side effects associated with having regular sex. Many are surprised by the benefits of having regular sex.
Benefits of having sex include but are not limited to:
Reducing the chance of heart attack and stroke by 50% in men.
Sex is a great way to burn calories! 30 minutes is 200 calories gone!
Sex can also help to cure irritability and agitation.
Having sex even once a week can boost the immune system by 30%.
Having sex regularly actually slows the aging process that we all fear.
Those who have sex usually sleep better due to endorphins released afterward.
Sex helps to tone the pelvic muscles, meaning better bladder control!
Sex can relieve the pain associated with menstrual cramps.
Women will benefit from regular sex in the way of a smaller buttocks!
Regular sex means more regular menstrual cycles, which is a good thing!
Sex can bring people back together, even after a nasty fight.
Having sex can induce labor when a pregnancy has gone over term.
Need to be more flexible? Sex can help with this!
Sex can actually relieve a headache, so stop using it as an excuse and get busy!
Sex is always a great topic of conversation! The more you have the more you can talk!
The more you have sex the longer you’ll be able to enjoy it as you get older.
Men who have regular sex are less likely to develop prostate cancer.
Sex can actually help people express their affection for one another.
Having good sex is a confidence booster as it is nice to know that you are able to please someone in a sexual way.
Sex is a great way to release tension.
As you can see, there are a lot of great reasons to keep having sex as you age. Many relationships go from having a lot of sex to hardly ever having sex. If you don’t have time or you don’t have much of a libido, work on these things. Sex is beneficial in many different ways, even ways that we do not realize. As if you needed any, above are 20 great reasons to start having more regular sex. When you make it a priority you will find that sex is something that you actually begin looking forward to, even if you never have before!
The most important thing that goes into having great sex is knowledge. If you know exactly what you are supposed to do, when to do and how to do, you can be have extraordinary sex even if you do not have much experience. You can begin by watching some black sex videos; there is a lot to learn if you watch closely the various sex positions, rythms and styles they use. Even the occasional black porn video can help you get educated in making your sex life better.
You must have knowledge about the all the sexual techniques; all the moves from restrained foreplay to the several different sex positions. Read all you can about these as newer positions and techniques that you use remove the boredom from the dull, predictable sex that you always have, thus making sex extremely exciting and finally more enjoyable. If you do not like reading, you will probably find it better to watch one of the black sex videos or a black porn video to give you a fair idea of all the new tricks that you can use.
It is recommended that you engage in foreplay for at least 15 minutes before you have sex. It is important that both partners are aroused in order that sex is as pleasurable as it can get. If not, the woman could suffer from discomfort and pain. A lot of people do not realize this and jump straight to the part of having sex. You should never make this mistake. Watch the black porn video for ideas on how to go about engaging in foreplay.
You and your partner should go about exploring each other’s bodies entirely before you go straight to the very erogenous regions. You should work in such a way that you reach a point where both you and your partner cannot resist sex any more. You can massage, lick and kiss each other’s shoulders, neck, breast, back, thighs and stomach. The black sex videos will give you a fair idea about how to go about doing this. The rest is left to your imagination.
While having sex, exchange positions time and again. This will prolong the session and make it all the more enjoyable. Unpredictability is the most important thing where sex is concerned. The more unpredictable your moves, the better and more enjoyable it gets.
There is plenty to learn about sex, but these tips along with a black porn video should help you improve your sex life greatly.
There are normally two kinds of people when you talk about sex. Some enjoy it when they find time to have it and there are the others who are driven by sex; they have sex as often as they can and look got greater highs from having it. These sex fanatics love having sex and that too, with different partners all the time. They read about sex or watch black sex videos and learn all they can, see black porn video and everything else they can get their hands on to enhance their sexual performance.
Who doesn’t want to have pleasure with minimum pain? And one of the most pleasurable things you can do is have sex. But very few people educate themselves in this direction. You find hardly anyone reading a good book on the intricacies of a good sex life. But when you read books or watch black sex videos you learn about the subject and get more knowledgeable about it. Then you just have to put your knowledge into practice and have a great time!
Today’s society is becoming more « sex-positive » and sex toys have become a more accepted part of a healthy loving relationship. Adult toys are becoming increasingly popular among the younger generation of this world. They are perfectly normal and natural to use with a partner or alone. It goes without saying that sex toys are best enjoyed with no guilt attached. They require no justification; sex toys are pleasure for pleasure’s sake. In many ways, sex toys are the final stumbling block on the path to sexual openness.
There are many misconceptions that sex toys are only used by people who choose to remain abstinent, do not currently have sexual partners, or by gay men and lesbians. Many people assume that sex toys are purchased to fulfill some sort of sexual inadequacy. Others feel that sex toys are for ‘maama men’ who need to satisfy their women but are sexually deficient and need sex aids to help them out. I do not mean to hurt your pride but what concerns the sex, adult sex toys are much ahead us.
Because our society is in conflict over the rightness of sexual pleasure, it is not surprising that sex toys are subject to numerous myths and controversies. While sex toys are commonly used for solo sex, many couples enjoy using sex toys together, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation. Most sex toys are perfectly safe, as long as they are used with common sense. Sex toys are fantastic for keeping variety alive and having a good time together.
Relationship
Sometimes it’s hard to communicate our sexual desires to our partners, especially when wanting to bring something new into a sexual relationship. Your partner needs to understand where you’re coming from, what you’re interested in doing, and how you will respect their boundaries, in order for sex toys to be a healthy, pleasurable part of your relationship.
Some couples find that a healthy relationship can comfortably accommodate the addition of sex toys. Bringing sex toys into your relationship will bring the two of you closer mentally, and physically, and will leave you both smiling all day long. After all, we all know that sexual satisfaction is an important function within relationships.
Frequent intimacy, especially in the context of a caring relationship, extends life expectancy, enhances mental health and mitigates a host of physical ailments, research shows. Far from merely a joke, sex toys can help strengthen and improve people’s sexual relationship with themselves and with their partners.
Keeping passion alive in a relationship takes work, it doesn’t just happen on it’s own. Conquering the skill of effective communication is the best step you can take to safeguard your relationship from many of the destructive forces that many couples face. However, some couples find that a healthy relationship can comfortably accommodate the addition of sex toys, while others may find that after some experimentation they prefer not to use them.
Conclusion
Used alone or to enhance your current sex life, whatever your fantasy, sex toys are true works of art that are guaranteed to tickle your imagination and ignite the passion within. Sex toys are a great way to add a bit of variety to your sex life so whatever you choose, enjoy.
You often hear people talk about spicing up their love life. This is in fact the core principle of the different types of woman sex toys and male sex toys. In case you feel the need of some sort of variation in your sex practices and you do not even conceive of changing your partner, woman sex toys and male sex toys are that little something or not that little, in some cases able to revive the excitement of your sexual interactions.
Woman sex toys range from the increasingly popular vibrators and dildos to lubricants and shrink techniques, all of them incentives of improved sexual practices. Male sex toys comprise all sorts of erection enhancers, from vibrators since it seems that prostate stimulation is extremely pleasurable to vibrating vagina sleeves and ball holders, compartments specifically designed to fuel you up starting from your testicles.
There are woman sex toys and male sex toys for every type of sex people can perform. Conventional positions, oral sex or anal sex will all feel superior to anything in the standard limits you have experience up to this moment. Woman sex toys and male sex toys may indeed seem nonstandard as they truly are. However, there is nothing damaging in trying out something new. It is like applying an upgrade to the tools you have already been given and there is nothing shocking about upgrades, is there? Wouldn’t you enjoy it to the utmost of your taste to see your partner lose his or her constraints and completely relax and then do everything you could imagine to obtain satisfaction for both of you? Combining woman sex toys and male sex toys may just be the perfect formula for getting it all.
Are woman sex toys and male sex toys going to wear out at a certain point in time? Well, like all things, they will eventually become obsolete, if not even unfashionable. However, in order to extend the life of woman sex toys and male sex toys, there are a series of basic, effortless things you could do. For one example, in case you opt for battery-based vibrators, it is advisable to disconnect the batteries from the tool after each “treatment” you have applied with its assistance. Moreover, in order to guarantee a more comfortable penetration, whether vaginal or anal, both woman sex toys and male sex toys should be lubricated. In some cases, people even prefer to roll up a condom on their vibrators, so as to prevent any unpleasant infection, especially if they use the same vibrator, for instance, for both anal and vaginal sex.
Both woman sex toys and male sex toys will cure your sensual interactions from the danger or the already manifest touch of monotony and boredom. Woman sex toys will render a woman more resourceful than she might have imagined it. The same woman sex toys will change for the better the point of view a man has on his partner: he will see something daring and maybe eccentric in a girlfriend or wife stepping outside the limits of what looked like an unchanging and eventually tedious sex ritual. Resourcefulness in woman sex toys lies in the very power of these tools to unleash even the shy characters. For a woman to successfully handle woman sex toys like vibrators or the g-spot stimulators given by the Ben Wa Balls the necessity to be an expert in the field does not exist. With a little accommodation with the tools before actually putting them in action and with some care as to the quality of the batteries you put in battery-activated devices, your pleasure is guaranteed.
Male sex toys will increase not just the intensity of the man’s reaching the sexual climax, but also the woman’s. Cock rings or penis vibrators basically engorge the penis after having been placed at its base and after having encircled it so as to carry out delightful pressure on the blood flow and maintain a prolonged erection. The climax will feel truly positive, after the woman’s satisfaction has been fruitfully accomplished and after feelings (never tried before) traveled your entire body. With male sex toys, men have the opportunity to explore sex beyond regular boundaries, to try at least for once the improvements standards can acquire. However, after having tried for once the benefits of male sex toys, men are sure to come back to using them, since sex will never be the same after giving it a go for once to such toys.
However, don’t keep toys for yourself, especially if you are involved in a relationship. Surely, you can use both male sex toys and woman sex toys to gain that overflow of pleasure by yourself, yet in a relationship the whole fun, the defining fun in fact, is to put everything in common. Woman sex toys and male sex toys do not make an exception from the rule of sharing. In the end, that is the whole idea of using sex toys in a relationship: communicating with your partner by looks, dirty talking, touching him/her or touching yourself, or by whispers. The pleasure you get hold of when you set the toys in motion is equal to turning him/her on. You cannot even begin to imagine what pleasures you will experiment when the partner will activate his/her toys and both of you start towards undreamed-of climaxes. Only then will you be able to measure the true value of what spicing up your love life actually means. All the zing, the color, the flavor, the little something that was missing will surely have the incredible chance of being completed at the moment you decide on giving a hand to your relationship by bringing sex toys into the picture.
